Our Imperfect Lives

It’s a Small World – this Fostering World


We started this whole process last fall by filling out the initial paperwork, meeting with the social worker and having our first home visit. Now, as they say, timing is everything and unfortunately we started this process just a week too late and narrowly missed the start of a MAPP class in our very own city. So we sat back and waited for a class to be offered again; we figured we live in a fairly big city and another class should be offered soon. We ended up waiting for a while…

It’s now spring and still no classes are scheduled in our city, or in our county, which is why we decided to travel 45 min south. Although we’re familiar with the area and didn’t mind commuting since driving though Boston on a Saturday is fairly painless, we were a little disappointed. We were hoping to meet local people whom we could build friendships with and use as resources throughout this process.

However, as luck would have it we might still have that opportunity!

When we arrived to class we took a seat in the back next to another couple that looked about our age (coincidentally enough they were both teachers like Meg). The class was slowly filling up and shortly after we settled into our seats two men walked in and took a spot across the room – they were clearly a couple. Admittedly we were a little happy to see we wouldn’t be the only same sex couple in the class. However, our good fortune didn’t end there. As it turns out they lived not 15 minutes from our home and one of them grew up, and even taught for a few years, in the very city we call home.

At this point it’s still too early to tell if they’ll be people we’ll want to have a lasting relationship with but there’s certainly potential and we’re excited about that. We seem to have a lot in common which bodes well.

And in other small world news – another member of the class grew up in the same town as Marcy only a short bike ride from her childhood home, but is about 15 years older than the two of us.

OK, enough of the fun small world tidbits, lets talk about the world of fostering to adopt…

How was our first class you ask? Well, it was mostly what we expected, at least so far. Marguerite had done a lot of research so we had a pretty good overview of what fostering to adopt is all about. We also went into the class with the understanding that a lot of what the class would be about is pretty much scaring the crap out of potential foster parents to make sure they enter into this commitment with their eyes open. It seems as though a lot of what we discussed was merely an overview of adopting through the foster system. We touched upon who in the DCF we would potentially interact with, the roles and rights of the birth family, the foster family and the adoptive family. Plus, we learned about some of the baggage children in the system might have. In all likelihood the discussions are only going to get more in-depth and more difficult in the upcoming weeks. Not to mention it was hinted that we’re going to participate in… dun dun dun – role plays. We both hate role playing.

And now, dear readers, it’s time to do our homework before class number two on Satuday.

2 thoughts on “It’s a Small World – this Fostering World

  1. Hey Meg I am so excited to hear you guys have embarked on this journey! We absolutely love our nuggets. I will say that I hope the classes are more useful than our NH classes. (Sort of repetitive for an educator). How long will it take for licensure? I have a friend who works for DCYF in Massachusetts if you need a contact. Do you guys have an age preference or ?

    • Meghan – I am always excited to hear about your family as well! So far the classes have been long, but useful. We finish the MAPP training in mid-April. I’m not sure how long the home study process will take, but when we have a better idea we will let the world know. Our age preference is 0-4, with some flexibility when it comes to siblings. However, none of our preferences are set in stone, so that could change. – Meg

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